I Would Do Anything

Many guys, when trapped in a behavior that breaks trust in their marriage, will say to their wives, "I will do anything you want me to do!" What they really mean is, "I will do whatever it takes to make you happy so you won't be angry at me anymore!" The problem this creates is similar to the problems that made the mess in the first place: quick fixes that fail to create any lasting change.

Men, let's be honest. To get her off our back, or to get back on her good side, we have made commitments and promises left and right, only to watch those words fade into oblivion when the emotion of the moment goes away.

I told my wife for many years that I would do anything- so much so that she stopped listening to my words all together. Why? Because she was watching what I did. So I said I would do anything, but I didn't really make the effort to change long term.

Real change is the result of consistent efforts in the same direction over time, founded on an understanding of who God has made you to be, in the presence of others who can affirm your God-given identity.

Don't say "I'll do anything" anymore. She isn't listening to your words. She's watching what you do.